5 Ways Schools Can Better Support Adopted Students

As we settle into the new school year, many of us are still holding the warmth and wisdom of TRJ Family Camp. For families raising Black and Brown children through adoption, this moment of transition is more than school supplies and bus schedules—it’s about preparing children for systems that may not always fully see or support them.

Across the country, education is shifting. Diversity, equity, inclusion and Belonging (DEIB) initiatives are being rolled back. Inclusive curriculum is under attack. Mental health support is underfunded. These changes affect students and make it even more imperative that parents are ready to advocate for the children entrusted to them through adoption. (Back to School, Plugged In and Present)

For adopted children and teens—especially those in transracial families—school is often the first environment where differences in identity, race, and family structure become visible. A “baby picture” day, a “family tree” assignment, or a question like “Do you look more like your mom or dad?” can land with confusion or emotional activation.

At the same time, schools also hold tremendous possibilities. When educators and parents work together with intention, school can become a place where belonging blooms.

5 Ways to Support Adopted Students

  1. Acknowledgment of All Family Types by Teachers and Administrators
    Avoid assumptions. Use inclusive language like “grown-ups,” “caregivers,” or “adults at home” instead of defaulting to “mom and dad.”
    Parents: If your family structure isn’t represented in class materials, speak up. It matters.
  2. Be Trauma-Informed
    Adoption often includes grief, loss, and complexity. Empathy—not avoidance—helps children feel seen and safe.
    Parents: Prep your child for moments that may surface, and advocate for trauma-aware policies.
  3. Reflect Identity in the Curriculum
    Representation matters. All students benefit from books, lessons, and visuals that reflect a full spectrum of identities and family stories.
    Parents: Lend a book or suggest a story that represents your child’s experience.
  4. Reimagine Assignments
    Projects like “Family Trees” or “The Story of Your Name” can unintentionally isolate adopted students.
    Parents: Partner with teachers early. Offer alternatives or suggest reframes if needed.
  5. Build Trust Through Consistency
    Belonging doesn’t happen once—it’s built daily.
    Parents: Check in often with teachers and staff. Create a feedback loop that centers your child’s well-being.

Why This Matters

When I was a child, school didn’t feel like a space for my full story. I didn’t have affinity groups or adults talking about the complexity of adoption—especially not as a Black or mixed-race person in a white family.

Today, TRJ creates the spaces I never had. And what I see again and again when working in schools, is that these conversations don’t just support adopted students—they benefit all students navigating connections to family. When schools and families create space for identity and belonging, we raise children who feel seen, supported, and celebrated.

Additional Resources

Together, we are building the schools—and the world—our children deserve.

This post is from our September 2025 newsletter. If you would like to get our newsletter in your inbox each month, as well as information about our annual TRJ Family Camp and our monthly Zoom call providing support for our transracial adoption parents, please subscribe.


Black Excellence: Langston Hughes and Aaron Douglas

Aaron Douglas - Black Excellence

Giants of the Harlem Renaissance

Langston Hughes and Aaron Douglas, two giants of the Harlem Renaissance, embodied Black excellence by using their art to redefine what it meant to be Black in America. Their work was more than creative expression; it was a powerful tool for teaching vital lessons and fostering a deep sense of belonging within the Black community.

The Lessons They Taught

Hughes and Douglas taught that Black culture and identity were sources of immense pride and dignity, not subjects of shame or imitation. They created a visual and literary language that affirmed Blackness and celebrated its unique beauty.

  • Cultural Affirmation: Langston Hughes's work was deeply influenced by the blues and jazz music of his time. He wrote in a direct, accessible style, giving voice to a community that had been largely ignored or stereotyped. His work, like "The Negro Speaks of Rivers," connected the Black experience to ancient African history, providing a profound sense of continuity and heritage. This taught that Black life was not defined by its suffering but by its resilience and rich cultural legacy.
  • Art as Activism: Aaron Douglas used his distinct style, which blended African art with modernism, to tell the story of the Black American journey. His famous murals, such as "Aspects of Negro Life," depicted the path from slavery to the vibrant culture of the Harlem Renaissance. This visual storytelling taught that art could be a powerful tool for social change, education, and resistance against oppression.

Fostering a Sense of Belonging

Beyond their individual art, their collaboration and influence built a foundation for a new kind of belonging.

  • Mirroring and Representation: Both artists provided essential "mirroring" for the Black community. For the first time, Black people saw themselves as the central subjects of high art and serious literature. Douglas's striking silhouettes and Hughes's heartfelt poems created a reflection of Black identity that was beautiful, complex, and aspirational. This was crucial for a sense of belonging in a society that often tried to render Black people invisible.
  • Creating Community: The Harlem Renaissance itself was a hub of Black excellence, and Hughes and Douglas were at its center. Their shared work fostered a collaborative environment where artists, writers, and intellectuals built a community of support and inspiration. This taught that true belonging comes from shared purpose and collective creation.

Together, Hughes and Douglas were a dynamic duo. They collaborated frequently, with Douglas illustrating Hughes's work, a partnership that taught the power of community and collective progress. Their combined artistic legacy proved that Black excellence is not just about individual achievement but about using one's gifts to create a lasting cultural foundation that affirms, uplifts, and empowers an entire community.

Black Excellence Posts:

Each month, we take time to highlight the remarkable contributions of Black leaders, trailblazers, and changemakers whose impact continues to shape our world. These stories serve as a valuable opportunity for transracial families to learn, reflect, and engage in meaningful conversations about Black history and culture. We invite you to explore our past Black Excellence features in the carousel below, where you’ll find inspiring figures from various fields—activism, science, arts, sports, and beyond. If you haven’t already, be sure to subscribe to our monthly newsletter to receive these stories, along with discussion prompts and book recommendations, right in your inbox.

 


Book Corner – September 2025

Black Boy, Black Boy

by Ali Kamanda and Jorge Redmond
illustrated by Ken Daley

Preschool-Grade 3

Colorful illustrations and rhyming text introduce young readers to Black men who made history – Colin Kaepernick, Elijah McCoy, Sam Cooke, Barack Obama, and more. This inspiring book encourages Black boys to break boundaries, believe in themselves, and shape their own fates.

Read more and/or buy the book at The Young Dreamers' Bookstore.


September: Navigating Life with Clarity and Confidence

In September we focus on navigating to move through life with clarity and confidence as it can relate to our family's relationship to the calendar.  As we make our way through the year there are so many ways we can use the calendar to lean into conversations about the uniqueness of our families. Being thoughtful about how our families have to navigate the world differently and talking openly about what we might face can help ease the impact. This month, our featured article, "5 Ways Schools Can Better Support Adopted Students," could feel very relevant to September. 

The calendar can be the perfect tool to:
• Celebrate the special moments and prepare for the harder ones.
• Honor every person in the family who is connected to your child and to you.
• Ensure you are making time each month to talk with intention about adoption and differences of race, culture, and class.

September Pro-Tip to Foster Conversations About Transracial Adoptions

At Transracial Journeys we send our families conversation cues each month, from our Transracial Journeys card deck, given to all our families at Family Camp and available for purchase. The card deck contains three cards for each month, designed for the children to ask their parents. Below are the questions for September. Before letting your child get started, prepare by reading the parent pro-tip, from the Parent Guide, each month.

September Pro-Tip for Parents: It’s a good idea to add the birthday of your child’s family of origin. If you do not know the dates make an effort to find out and if that is not possible, pick a day where you will honor them in some way and start to institutionalize that on your calendars every year. This will make space to honor those that came before you and while birth parents may not be physically present every day they remain attached to your child and your family in spirit. Make plans to have special treats on these days to celebrate the people that are connected to your children and to you.

Get more thoughts on how, as parents, we can help build practices of learning and aligning to become capable of walking beside our children with clarity and confidence, centering their experiences and needs, instead of hovering around them and world events in our own anxieties, which centers ourselves. A September reflection, written by white adoptive parent, Bear Howe, was presented last year in two parts: Walking Beside Our Children With Clarity and Confidence (Part 1) and Walking Beside Our Children With Clarity and Confidence (Part 2). These can be helpful articles for other white adoptive parents in our TRJ group and beyond - TogetheR on the Journey. 

CARD ONE: IDENTITY
• Where are some of your favorite places to go?
• Why do you like certain places more than others?

CARD TWO: RELATIONSHIPS
• Did you remember a time when someone out in the world did not think we were together as a family?
• How did that feel?

CARD THREE: EMBRACING AND FACING DIFFERENCES OF RACE AND CULTURE
• How does it feel when we are out in the world and people ask us questions about our family?

This post is from our September 2025 email newsletter. If you would like to get our newsletter in your inbox each month, please subscribe.  You will get invitations to our Parent Meet-Up each month, a virtual meeting to act as a transracial adoption support group - sharing issues, ideas and strategies for creating a culture of communication and curiosity in your home, as well as monthly card prompt to keep the conversations about race, adoption, family, love and relationships front and center all year long.  And lastly, you'll always be made aware of important dates for Transracial Journeys Family Camp!


Black Excellence: Charlotte Forten Grimké

Championing education and equality: The legacy of Charlotte Forten Grimké

Charlotte Forten Grimké stands as a testament to Black excellence in education and activism. Her life, though marked by challenges, demonstrates a powerful commitment to fighting for racial and gender equality through the transformative power of learning.

Born in 1837 into a prominent abolitionist family in Philadelphia, Forten's early education took place at home, as her father refused to send her to the city's segregated public schools. However, a significant turning point arrived when, at 16, she moved to Salem, Massachusetts, to live with the abolitionist Remond family and attend Higginson Grammar School. This relocation, which can be seen as an informal adoption into a more progressive educational and social environment, profoundly shaped her future. Forten's mother died when she was three, and her father, Robert Bridges Forten, did not want her to attend Philadelphia's segregated schools. Instead, he sent her to the more progressive Salem, Massachusetts, where she boarded with the Remond family, who were also prominent Black abolitionists. The move to the Remond family's household provided Charlotte with the opportunity to pursue a higher quality and integrated education not available to her in Philadelphia.

In Salem, Forten gained access to an integrated education that had been denied to her in Philadelphia. She attended Higginson Grammar School, where she was the only Black student in a class of 200, and later the Salem Normal School (now Salem State University), training to become a teacher.

Forten's time in Salem further immersed her in the abolitionist movement. Living with the Remonds and joining the Salem Female Anti-Slavery Society connected her with prominent figures like William Lloyd Garrison. She began publishing her own poetry and essays in abolitionist periodicals, using her voice to advocate for change. This period marked the emergence of her powerful literary and activist voice.

Forten’s commitment to education and equality led her to the Sea Islands of South Carolina during the Civil War as part of the Port Royal Experiment. There, she joined efforts to establish schools for formerly enslaved people, according to Horizons National. This was a pivotal time where she connected with the Gullah people and experienced firsthand the thirst for knowledge among a community that had been denied access to formal education. Although initially met with skepticism by some, she earned their trust and affection, chronicling her experiences in her journals and published essays like "Life on the Sea Islands". These writings not only documented her personal experiences but also provided valuable insights into the lives of both free and enslaved Black Americans during this tumultuous period.

After the war, Forten Grimké continued her work as an educator and activist, serving the Freedmen's Union Commission and teaching at various schools. She later married Reverend Francis J. Grimké, a prominent Presbyterian minister and civil rights advocate. Together, they continued their fight for racial justice and equality, with Charlotte becoming a co-founder of the Colored Women's League and actively involved in the women's suffrage movement. Charlotte Forten Grimké's story is a powerful reminder of the enduring spirit of Black excellence. Her determination to seek education, her unwavering commitment to social justice, and her eloquent use of words to fight for equality continue to inspire generations. Her legacy is one of resilience, leadership, and a profound belief in the transformative power of education for all.

Black Excellence Posts:

Each month, we take time to highlight the remarkable contributions of Black leaders, trailblazers, and changemakers whose impact continues to shape our world. These stories serve as a valuable opportunity for transracial families to learn, reflect, and engage in meaningful conversations about Black history and culture. We invite you to explore our past Black Excellence features in the carousel below, where you’ll find inspiring figures from various fields—activism, science, arts, sports, and beyond. If you haven’t already, be sure to subscribe to our monthly newsletter to receive these stories, along with discussion prompts and book recommendations, right in your inbox.

 


Book Corner – August 2025

The 1619 Project: Born on the Water 

by Nikole Hannah-Jones & Renee Watson,
illustrated by Nikkolas Smith

Grades 2-5, Ages 7-10

Her school assignment is “trace your roots.” How can a young Black girl, who can only trace her family back three generations, complete this assignment? Her grandmother gathers the family around to tell them about their beginnings. She talks about the vibrant civilization enjoyed by African people before they were kidnapped and enslaved. She tells stories of the terrible journey to America, and what happened to the survivors when they arrived. Ending on a hopeful note, this is a moving and important book..

https://www.asiabookcenter.com/store/p4041/The_1619_Project%3A_Born_on_the_Water.html


Back to School, Plugged In and Present

When School Isn’t Just About School Anymore

Across the country, public education is undergoing major shifts. The rollback of DEI initiatives, bans on inclusive curriculum, and political pushback on mental health support aren’t just headlines—they’re realities that directly affect our children.

For parents raising Black and Brown children through adoption—especially in transracial families—this moment calls for something more than good intentions. It calls for presence, participation, and proactive parenting.


The Landscape Has Changed

  • DEI programs are being cut or rebranded in schools and districts nationwide.
  • Curriculum bans increasingly target topics like race, gender identity, and historical truth.
  • Teachers face restrictions on discussing equity, culture, or even acknowledging differences.
  • Mental health and student support services are underfunded, defunded, or politicized.

This isn’t “business as usual”—and our children feel it.


Why This Matters for Adopted Children

Adopted children, especially those in transracial families, already face unique educational challenges:

  • Adopted children are nearly twice as likely to have an Individualized Education Plan (IEP) or receive special education services compared to non-adopted peers.¹
  • Studies show higher rates of school-based behavioral referrals and emotional distress among adopted children, often linked to identity, trauma, and attachment dynamics.²

These outcomes aren’t inevitable—but they are real. And they require us to stay attuned to the evolving educational landscape.


Your Child Is Watching

Black and Brown children—especially those adopted into white families—often carry a deep, intuitive awareness of when they are not being fully seen. Even when they can’t name it, they notice when identity is ignored, erased, or punished.

Silence doesn’t protect them. It isolates them.


Stay Plugged In: 5 Ways to Show Up This School Year

  1. Review what your child is learning—and what they’re not.
    Ask how race, identity, heritage, and family structure are addressed in the classroom.
  2. Speak up at school board or PTA meetings.
    One calm, clear voice can shift a room. Showing up matters.
  3. Connect with teachers and staff early.
    Build trust. Ask how your child is doing socially, emotionally, and culturally—not just academically.
  4. Build a cultural safety net at home.
    Make sure books, media, and mentors reflect your child’s identity—even if school doesn’t.
  5. Find or build your people.
    Whether it’s a parent group, online forum, or TRJ family circle—community creates confidence and impact.

Together, we can raise children who are not only seen—but celebrated.

With love and solidarity,
The TRJ Team

This post is from our August 2025 newsletter. If you would like to get our newsletter in your inbox each month, as well as information about our annual TRJ Family Camp and our monthly Zoom call providing support for our transracial adoption parents, please subscribe.


August – Growing: Always Learning

Back to school is a time of transition for children and families. It’s a time to be thoughtful about what children need when they go into schools every day. A great way to prepare children from families that don’t match is by having intentional conversations about differences of race and ethnicity as well as family structure and culture. Read  "Back to School, Plugged In and Present" this month's featured article, for more on the unique educational challenges faced by our adopted children - especially those in transracial families.

Related articles from years past include:

CARD ONE: IDENTITY 
Close your eyes and think of being a kid at school: What is the first word that comes to mind?
• Can you describe what your school was like?
- How big was it?
- How many other kids were there?
• What was your favorite subject?

CARD TWO: RELATIONSHIPS
• Who were some of your favorite teachers and why?
• Were there any kids or teachers who looked like me in your school?
• Were there any kids or teachers that were a different race than you?

CARD THREE: EMBRACING AND FACING DIFFERENCES OF RACE AND CULTURE
• Did you ever see black or brown students being treated differently?
• How do you think your experiences in school were different from mine?
• What can you do better to prepare me for what I might face at school?

This post is from our August 2025 newsletter. If you would like to get our newsletter in your inbox each month, please subscribe.  You will get invitations to our Parent Meet-Up each month, a virtual meeting to act as a transracial adoption support group - sharing issues, ideas and strategies for creating a culture of communication and curiosity in your home, as well as monthly card prompt to keep the conversations about race, adoption, family, love and relationships front and center all year long.  And lastly, you'll always be made aware of important dates for Transracial Journeys Family Camp!


Book Corner – July 2025

Surviving the White Gaze: A Memoir 

by Rebecca Carroll
Adult

Transracial adoptee Becky had an idyllic early childhood in a loving family. Living in a rural community, she was the only person of color in her town, and as she grew older, Becky felt isolated and confused. Life became even more difficult when she met Tess, her white birth mother, at age 16. Tess refused to talk about Becky’s Black father and undermined Becky’s identity and self-esteem. Becky’s journey to find herself is an illuminating – and ultimately hopeful - read.

https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Surviving-the-White-Gaze/Rebecca-Carroll/9781982116279 


Together on the Journey: Freedom, Truth & the Power of Connection

TRJ Family Camp 2025 Newsletter Feature
from April Dinwoodie and the TRJ Board of Directors

Every July, the calendar turns our attention to freedom. Fireworks, flags, and family cookouts remind us of independence—but for those of us connected to adoption, freedom carries a deeper, more complex meaning.

At TRJ, we know that freedom doesn’t begin with independence alone. It begins with truth—and the courage to name it. It requires access to origins, permission to grieve, and space to explore identity in all its complexity. It requires support. It requires community. It requires love that tells the truth and makes room for transformation.

That’s why we gather.

At TRJ Family Camp 2025, we will come Together on the Journey—to center truth, celebrate culture, and connect in ways that nurture the full humanity of transracially adopted people and their families.

This year’s theme is more than a title. It’s a promise.
That no child, youth, or parent has to walk this path alone.
That our collective growth will be rooted in honesty, tenderness, and action.
That healing and joy can exist in the same room as grief and complexity.

Our programming is grounded in three pillars—CONNECT, GROW, and THRIVE—with clear goals and practical tools for both parents and children. Whether it’s a parent practicing emotional presence, a teen learning to share their story, or a whole family creating cultural rituals together, camp is a space to deepen connection and rediscover what belonging really means.

This year, we’re honored to welcome three dynamic presenters: Habeebah Rasheed Grimes, Jared Robinson, and Dr. Tony Hynes, whose lived and professional experiences will anchor powerful conversations with families. We’re also thrilled to have Fairy Hawk return to offer reiki and breathwork as a resource for restoration during the weekend. And this year, along with working with the campers, Miss Rachel will also be spending time with parents.  

A Special Saturday Event—Open to All

One of our most anticipated moments will take place Saturday, August 2, during our Hair & Identity Celebration, which will be open to the broader Ohio community and virtual guests alike.

This powerful experience will include:

  • Blended Together Vision & Opening Remarks
  • Storytelling with Miss Rachel
  • A Dynamic Panel Conversation
  • Live “Wash Day” Hair Care Demonstration featuring detangling, styling, and maintenance guidance
  • Sponsor Highlights & Audience Q&A
  • Closing Reflections

Whether you’re attending in person or virtually, this event is for parents, professionals, educators, and anyone who wants to better understand the intersection of hair, culture, and identity in transracial adoption. Stay tuned for RSVP details!

This is the work of freedom.
Not the kind that forgets or flattens the past—but the kind that creates a future where adopted people are empowered to know who they are, where they come from, and that they are never alone in the journey.

We are so glad you are here.
Let’s keep walking together.

With heart and solidarity,
April Dinwoodie & the TRJ Board of Directors

This post is from our July 2025 newsletter. If you would like to get our newsletter in your inbox each month, as well as information about our annual TRJ Family Camp and our monthly Zoom call providing support for our transracial adoption parents, please subscribe.