Together on the Journey: Freedom, Truth & the Power of Connection

TRJ Family Camp 2025 Newsletter Feature
from April Dinwoodie and the TRJ Board of Directors

Every July, the calendar turns our attention to freedom. Fireworks, flags, and family cookouts remind us of independence—but for those of us connected to adoption, freedom carries a deeper, more complex meaning.

At TRJ, we know that freedom doesn’t begin with independence alone. It begins with truth—and the courage to name it. It requires access to origins, permission to grieve, and space to explore identity in all its complexity. It requires support. It requires community. It requires love that tells the truth and makes room for transformation.

That’s why we gather.

At TRJ Family Camp 2025, we will come Together on the Journey—to center truth, celebrate culture, and connect in ways that nurture the full humanity of transracially adopted people and their families.

This year’s theme is more than a title. It’s a promise.
That no child, youth, or parent has to walk this path alone.
That our collective growth will be rooted in honesty, tenderness, and action.
That healing and joy can exist in the same room as grief and complexity.

Our programming is grounded in three pillars—CONNECT, GROW, and THRIVE—with clear goals and practical tools for both parents and children. Whether it’s a parent practicing emotional presence, a teen learning to share their story, or a whole family creating cultural rituals together, camp is a space to deepen connection and rediscover what belonging really means.

This year, we’re honored to welcome three dynamic presenters: Habeebah Rasheed Grimes, Jared Robinson, and Dr. Tony Hynes, whose lived and professional experiences will anchor powerful conversations with families. We’re also thrilled to have Fairy Hawk return to offer reiki and breathwork as a resource for restoration during the weekend. And this year, along with working with the campers, Miss Rachel will also be spending time with parents.  

A Special Saturday Event—Open to All

One of our most anticipated moments will take place Saturday, August 2, during our Hair & Identity Celebration, which will be open to the broader Ohio community and virtual guests alike.

This powerful experience will include:

  • Blended Together Vision & Opening Remarks
  • Storytelling with Miss Rachel
  • A Dynamic Panel Conversation
  • Live “Wash Day” Hair Care Demonstration featuring detangling, styling, and maintenance guidance
  • Sponsor Highlights & Audience Q&A
  • Closing Reflections

Whether you’re attending in person or virtually, this event is for parents, professionals, educators, and anyone who wants to better understand the intersection of hair, culture, and identity in transracial adoption. Stay tuned for RSVP details!

This is the work of freedom.
Not the kind that forgets or flattens the past—but the kind that creates a future where adopted people are empowered to know who they are, where they come from, and that they are never alone in the journey.

We are so glad you are here.
Let’s keep walking together.

With heart and solidarity,
April Dinwoodie & the TRJ Board of Directors

This post is from our July 2025 newsletter. If you would like to get our newsletter in your inbox each month, as well as information about our annual TRJ Family Camp and our monthly Zoom call providing support for our transracial adoption parents, please subscribe.


Celebrating the Many Hands and Hearts That Hold Us: Part Two — Honoring Fatherhood in Its Many Forms

By April Dinwoodie

This spring, we're offering a two-part series:
Celebrating the Many Hands and Hearts That Hold Us — an exploration of what it means to honor family expansively through the lens of adoption.

As an adopted person — and someone in deep community with others who share this experience — I know firsthand that Father’s Day can be powerful, complicated, and deeply emotional. (read Part One about Mother's Day)

Some years, it filled me with gratitude. Other years, there was a quiet ache — wondering about the man who gave me life and the life I might have had. Even as I loved the father who raised me, there was still a part of me reaching for something... or someone... just out of reach.

That layered experience is not unique to me. It’s woven into the lives of many adopted persons. And no matter how we may feel, the reminders will come — through store displays, school assignments, social media tributes, and advertising campaigns.

In Part Two of our series, we focus on Father’s Day — the emotions it carries, the opportunities it presents, and how adoptive families can hold space for the many hands and hearts that shape a child’s life.

Fathers Day for Adoptive fathers

Fathering in Many Forms

For many of us, the word father is layered — and when adoption is part of the story, those layers deepen.

There may be a father of origin whose presence or absence shaped the beginning of a child’s life. There may be a father who raises and nurtures daily. There may be foster dads, grandfathers, mentors, coaches — and even aunties or mothers — who bring fathering energy in ways large and small.

Parenting a child through adoption means embracing the truth of multiple fathering experiences. It means helping children hold both love and grief, gratitude and longing, knowns and unknowns — often all at once.

Father’s Day can be joyful and confusing. It can be a time of celebration and sorrow. And when adoptive parents acknowledge these truths with openness, they offer one of the most powerful gifts: Permission and pathways to be whole.

The Erasure of Fathers — Especially Black Fathers

The truth is: many fathers of origin were not absent — they were excluded. They were pushed out of the narrative or never brought into it to begin with. Some — like my own — didn’t even know we existed.

There are, of course, cases where exclusion is necessary. When a father poses a risk to the child or others, safety must come first. And in adoption, it is often mothers who are positioned — sometimes solely — to decide whether or not to engage fathers. These are deeply personal, emotional, and often complicated decisions.

But far too often, exclusion becomes the default — not because of safety, but because of stigma, assumptions, or systemic failures. And when that happens, children lose access to an important part of their identity.

This erasure is especially common when it comes to Black fathers, who have long been portrayed through distorted, deficit-based lenses — as disengaged, irresponsible, or disposable. These narratives are not just untrue — they are deeply harmful.

We can do better.

Even when direct contact isn’t possible or appropriate, we can make space for dialogue, curiosity, and connection — symbolically, emotionally, historically. We can speak of fathers of origin with humanity and cultural humility. We can, invite in their presence, even if only through stories, reflection, or ritual.

In doing so, we honor the whole child — and the many hands and hearts that helped bring them into this world.

Suggestions for a More Expansive Fathers’ Day

Here are a few ways to expand and deepen your family’s celebration of fatherhood:

1. Name and Honor All Father Figures

Just like we did for Mothers’ Day, take time to name the people who have offered fathering care: fathers of origin, grandfathers, foster dads, coaches, uncles, mentors — even moms or aunties who carry fathering energy.

Speak them into the space.
Example: “I wonder what your father of origin might have been like. I wonder if he liked being outside like you do.”

This act of wondering and naming makes room for reflection, memory, and humanizing fathers.

2. Challenge the Single-Story Narrative

If you're parenting a child through adoption, challenge the idea that one father replaces another. You don’t need to choose between the past and present. Embrace the both/and:
“I’m so honored I get to raise you, and I wonder what parts of your father of origin live in you.”

Honoring one does not diminish the other.

3. Create a Ritual or Symbolic Gesture

Even if the child entrusted to you has no relationship with or knowledge of their father of origin, you can still make space for connection.
Rituals can help hold what is unknown or unresolved.

Plant something. Light a candle. Add a note to a memory box. Include a name or likeness (if known) in a family collage. These small acts of remembrance say:
“All of who you are matters here.”

4. Talk to Schools and Communities Ahead of Time

Just like with Mother’s Day, reach out to the adults in your child’s life — teachers, coaches, clergy — and offer context.

Explain your family’s approach to Father’s Day. Ask them to be mindful of activities that assume a singular, present, or traditional father figure.

It’s not about avoiding the holiday — it’s about preparing for it with intention and care.

Becoming the Bridge

As adoptive parents and caregivers, you are not meant to erase what came before — you are meant to build a bridge to it.

This Father’s Day, honor the many hands and hearts that hold your child. Include your own. Don’t be afraid of complexity — it’s where truth lives.

Traditional celebrations may not always fit your family’s reality — and that’s okay. With open hearts, honest conversations, and a willingness to hold what’s hard, your family can meet this season with connection and grace.

When we honor fatherhood in its many forms, we give our children something powerful:
the right to know themselves fully — and to be loved in all their layers.

Listen to the Calendar Conversations podcast to hear more about this series.  And follow April on social media @JuneinApril and on YouTube @April Dinwoodie

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This post is from our June 2025 newsletter. If you would like to get our newsletter in your inbox each month, as well as information about our annual TRJ Family Camp and our monthly Zoom call providing support for our transracial adoption parents, please subscribe.


Celebrating the Many Hands and Hearts That Hold Us: Part One – Honoring Motherhood in its Many Forms

By April Dinwoodie

This spring, we're offering a two-part series:
Celebrating the Many Hands and Hearts That Hold Us — an exploration of what it means to honor family expansively through the lens of adoption.

As an adopted person — and someone in deep community with others who share this experience — I know firsthand that Mother’s Day and Father’s Day can be powerful, complicated, and deeply emotional.

Some years, Mother’s Day filled me with joy and gratitude. Other years, there was a quiet ache — a wondering about the woman who gave me life and the life I might have had. Even as I loved the mother who raised me, there was still a part of me reaching for something... or someone... just out of reach. That layered experience is not unique to me. It's woven into the lives of so many adopted persons. No matter how we may feel, the reminders of the day will come through messages from advertisers and people in the world.

In this first part of our series, we focus on Mothers’ Day — the emotions it carries, the opportunities it presents, and how adoptive parents can hold space for the many hands and hearts that are part of a child’s life.

Honoring your mother as an adoptee

Mothers’ Love — And More Than One

For many humans, the word "mother" is layered. Those layers multiply when adoption is part of the reality. There may be a mother of origin whose love and/or loss shaped the beginning of life. There may be a mother who raises and nurtures day by day. There may be foster mothers, grandmothers, mentors, aunties — so many figures who mother in ways both large and small.

Parenting a child through adoption means embracing the truth of multiple mothering experiences. It means making space for children to hold both love and grief, gratitude and longing, knowns and unknowns — often at the same time.

Mother’s Day can be joyful and confusing. It can be a time of celebration and sadness.

When adoptive parents acknowledge these truths openly — and work toward an authentic, expansive relationship to family — they give their children the greatest gift:
permission to be whole.

Moving Beyond the Traditional

Mother’s Day traditions often promote a narrow, idealized image of family: one mother, one perfect bond. But real life — especially in adoption — is wider, deeper, and more complex.

Not every child feels only happiness on Mother’s Day. Not every parent feels fully secure. And not every family is mother-led. Some families have two dads, one dad, or caregivers whose parenting journeys don't fit traditional categories.

All families — your family — deserve celebration, visibility, and support.

One important element to remember: even if your family has expanded your view of "mother," schools, religious institutions, and the broader world may not have.
It’s important to talk with professionals connected to your child's life — teachers, coaches, mentors — so they understand your family’s structure and values heading into this season.

Takeaways for Mothers’ Day in Adoption

Here are some ways you can expand and deepen your celebration:

1. Honor All Mother Figures

  • Name and honor mothers of origin, foster mothers, grandmothers, aunties — anyone who has poured love or care into your child's life.
  • Acknowledge them aloud, even if your child is young or doesn’t yet have words for their feelings.
  • Even if your family doesn’t include a mother-figure at home, you can still honor those who have mothered along the way.

Example: “I wonder if the mother who was part of your life at the beginning liked flowers too…”

2. Reflect on Your Own Parenting Journey and Feelings About Mothering

  • Spend time before the holiday exploring your own feelings about mothering and being mothered — or, if you identify as a dad or another caregiver, how you relate to mothering energy.
  • Ask yourself: What parts of caregiving feel expansive for me? Where do I still need to grow?

Tip: Even a few minutes of reflection or journaling can help you show up more grounded and open.

3. Create a Space for Mixed Emotions

  • Let children know it’s okay to feel happy, sad, confused, or even angry around Mothers’ Day.
  • Normalize that missing, wondering about, or even mourning a mother-figure doesn't diminish their love for you.

Example: “It’s okay to love me and miss someone else at the same time. That’s part of our lives.”

4. Build Bridges, Not Barriers

  • Find ways to stay connected to family of origin — even symbolically. Remember: they are part of your family too.
  • If direct contact isn’t possible, honor their existence through storytelling, memory-making, or simple rituals.

Example: Light a candle or plant a flower in honor of all the people who are part of your child’s existence.

Becoming the Bridge

As adoptive parents, you are not meant to erase what came before — you are meant to build a bridge to it. You are entrusted with the sacred responsibility of helping the child entrusted to you weave a whole and honest holding of family.

This Mothers’ Day, celebrate expansively. Hold space for the complexity.
Honor the many hands and hearts that shape your child’s life — including your own.

Traditional celebrations may not always fit your family’s ethos perfectly — and that’s okay. With preparation, conversation, and a growth mindset, your family can face the world with pride, connection, and resilience.

When we do this, deeper roots and stronger bonds are formed.

Listen to the Calendar Conversations podcast to hear more about naming and claiming in Adoption.  And follow April on social media @JuneinApril and on YouTube @April Dinwoodie

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This post is from our May 2025 newsletter. If you would like to get our newsletter in your inbox each month, as well as information about our annual TRJ Family Camp and our monthly Zoom call providing support for our transracial adoption parents, please subscribe.


Expanding Identity Through Names

By April Dinwoodie

Names carry weight. They are an introduction, an inheritance, a declaration of who we are—and sometimes, who others hope we’ll become.

How Our Understanding of Names in Adoption Has Grown

For those of us connected to adoption, names often sit at the intersection of identity, relationship, and lived experience. And like so much else in adoption, the way we think about names has changed over time.

In the 1970s, during the height of the closed adoption era, children like me were expected to be a blank slate. Our original names—along with our families of origin—were erased from view, replaced with new names meant to fit neatly into our adoptive families. When I was adopted, my name was changed from June to April. It was standard practice. There was little consideration for what that change might mean for a child’s sense of self, because the dominant belief was that love and a fresh start were enough.

But names aren’t just words. They are ties. They are stories. And even when severed, those ties often tug quietly at the heart.

Today, adoption looks different. Many children come into adoptive families already named. In some cases, families co-create names together. Some names carry deep cultural or familial meaning. Others are offered with reverence for the child’s birth heritage, language, or history.

Still, for many parents, the idea that a child might want to change—or reclaim—a different name can feel uncomfortable, even painful. Naming can feel like a sacred act, a gift. And it is. But that doesn’t mean it’s the only gift a child will need as they grow into their full identity.

I’ve told the story before of a young girl adopted from China by her Jewish American mother. She had a traditionally Jewish name, and over time, she began to ask for something different—something that felt more aligned with how she saw herself and how she wanted to be seen. “People expect a very different person when they hear my name,” she explained. She wasn’t trying to erase her mother’s love. She was trying to make room for her own truth. In the end, together they went about doing all of the paperwork to change the girls name back her Chinese name. 

It’s also important to remember that not every name from a child’s past is one they will want to carry forward. For some, a name tied to their family of origin may activate trauma or bring up painful memories of disrupted attachment, neglect, or abuse. A name might echo voices they’ve tried to forget or experiences they are still trying to heal from. This is especially true for children whose early life experiences include loss, instability, or harm.

Children Deserve the Freedom to Redefine Themselves

This, too, must be held with compassion. Children deserve the freedom to redefine themselves—not just in celebration of their roots, but also in the healing from their wounds. Whether a child wants to reclaim a name from their past or release it altogether, what matters most is that we meet them with understanding and openness. They may be navigating a complex emotional terrain, and they need the support of family and community to feel safe doing so.

And in today’s digital world, that exploration can take many forms. Social media has given young people tools to try on names and identities—screen names, @ handles, chosen names—without permanence. For adopted persons, this can be a powerful, low-risk way to experiment with identity and discover what feels right.

As adults—especially those parenting adopted children—we must hold space for all of this: the grief, the curiosity, the creativity, and the reclamation. We can honor the names we gave with love and honor our child’s right to question, change, or expand that name as part of their journey.

Here are a few prompts to support your reflections this month: (more in post, April Exploring: What’s in a Name?)

  • What stories or significance are tied to my child’s name(s), and how can I honor those meanings?
  • How can I support my child in exploring or redefining their identity through names or self-expression?
  • In what ways do names in our family reflect culture, connection, or history?
  • Am I prepared to hear and hold the full story my child may carry about their name—including parts that are hard to hear?

Names are not just about who a child is to us. They are about who a child is to themselves—and to the world.

Let’s meet children where they are, with open hearts, ready to listen to the names they carry… and the ones they may one day choose.

Together on the journey, 
April Dinwoodie, Executive Director 

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Reclaiming Our Family Narrative: Setting Boundaries & Building Belonging

By April Dinwoodie

Transracial adoptive families represent diversity in a world that is constantly observing—even while professing, it doesn't “see color.” This reality makes it imperative that transracially adopted children are protected from the micro and macro aggressions they face by parents setting intentional, empowering boundaries. As a parent navigating the winding roads of adoption and identity, I've learned that fostering belonging begins with establishing clear, non-negotiable limits on what we accept from others.

Defining Our Space in a Noisy World

Every day, invasive questions and offhand assumptions challenge our privacy and personal truth. When strangers ask, “Where does your child really come from?” or imply that our family doesn’t quite “fit", it’s easy to feel exposed. However, these moments are opportunities to set boundaries, advocate for our narrative, and remind the world that our story is rich, complex, and not for public consumption. Responding with clarity and calm is an act of self-care and a declaration: our family is defined by us.

Creating Foundations of Belonging

Building belonging starts at home. It means having difficult, honest conversations with our children about their adoption, heritage, and the unique tapestry of identities that form who they are. As a parent, I ask myself:

  • What age-appropriate conversations can I have about their roots and identity?
  • How can I create an environment where my child feels unconditionally accepted?
  • What steps can I take to build a community that celebrates our unique family?

By preparing intentionally—establishing clear boundaries with those who may undermine our story—we create the conditions where children can explore and embrace every aspect of who they are. Within this thoughtful, structured environment, adopted persons can find the belonging they need and deserve.

Advocating for Our Truth in Public

Public perception often simplifies our stories. As parents, we must choose when to engage. It's okay to not answer invasive questions. By reclaiming control of our narrative, we teach our children that our family defines its own story.

Moving Forward Together

Parenting in a transracial family is challenging, requiring courage and compassion. We must educate ourselves, support each other, and stand firm in our belief that our family is beautiful and complete. Let's build communities that celebrate our diversity, ensuring our children experience a sense of belonging that honors every part of them. By reclaiming our narrative, we transform invasive assumptions into opportunities for growth and belonging.

This post is from our January 2025 newsletter. If you would like to get our newsletter in your inbox each month, as well as information about our annual Transracial Journeys Family Camp and our monthly Zoom call providing support for our transracial adoption parents, please subscribe.


2025 Family Camp Theme Announcement:

A Message from the TRJ Board of Directors and Executive Director

At the intersection of Black History Month and a month when we celebrate love, we are reminded of the power of community, resilience, and the bonds that sustain us on our journeys. This year, those values feel more urgent than ever and why we are thrilled to announce our 2025 camp theme: Together on the Journey: Community, Empowerment, & Joy. 

These words embody the heart of our mission—bringing transracially adopted children and their families together in a space of connection, learning, and growth. Each year, TRJ works to create a place where no one walks alone, where identity is celebrated, and where love is the foundation of everything we do.

It may feel like camp is a long way off, but it will be here before we know it! We are already preparing to welcome you back to Ohio University, where laughter will fill the air, friendships will deepen, and meaningful conversations will take place. Registration will open in March and we cannot wait to see both familiar and new faces join us on this incredible journey. As always, our theme will come to life with the help of our amazing Camp Co-Directors Mary and Karen along with our counselors, presenters and special guests.  

Honoring Black history helps us celebrate the children entrusted to us through adoption and helps ensure a strong future.  Doing this requires deep work to understand racial identity and belonging within a world that does not see the complexities of family separation and trauma. By committing to this work, we ensure that transracially adopted children are protected, seen, and valued for all that they are.

When we commit to this lifelong journey, we create the conditions for children to grow with confidence, cultural pride, and an unshakable sense of belonging. No matter how cold the climate may feel outside, TRJ is here to wrap you in warmth, understanding, and the unshakable knowledge that together the journey can be better and brighter.

We look forward to walking this journey with you. More on camp very soon! Until then, save the dates - July 30th- August 3rd.  

Together, we’ll grow. 

Together, we’ll heal. 

Together, we’ll thrive.

With Love,
The TRJ Board of Directors & Executive Director

Pictures from 2024 Transracial Journeys Family Camp at Ohio University

This post is an announcement from our February, 2025, newsletter. If you would like to get our newsletter in your inbox each month, as well as information about our annual Transracial Journeys Family Camp and our monthly Zoom call to provide support for our transracial adoption parents please subscribe.


January: Honoring Family Connections Through the Calendar

By April Dinwoodie

I couldn’t sleep. Something was nagging at me. Yes, there were work deadlines looming and the mundane tasks of life left undone. But this was different—a heavier weight, a quiet ache pressing on my spirit that I couldn't quite name. I lay awake, restless, cataloging every possible reason for my sadness. No upcoming anniversaries or events came to mind, nothing obvious to explain this depth of melancholy. Eventually, exhausted, I drifted off in the early hours, only to wake feeling spent and blurry-eyed.

As I scrolled through social media that morning, there it was. The anniversary of my mother of origin’s passing.  In that moment, I was reminded of how the body keeps the score and how social media can actually help get an adopted person in sync with family of origin after years of separation.   

I had only been in reunion for a few years and had yet to fully sync my calendar with the significant dates connected to my family of origin. While I hadn’t committed the exact dates of my relatives’ births and deaths to functional memory, my body and spirit knew. They remembered. The grief lived there, even when my mind hadn’t caught up. I wept reading the heartfelt tributes others shared about my mother of origin—words of love, loss, and remembrance. I wept because I missed her too, trying to hold onto her memory while also letting her go, all within the same breath.

In that raw moment, I needed grounding. I called my mom—the one who raised me. As we talked, I shared how restless my night had been, how my heart felt unsettled. Before I could explain, she interrupted to share that she hadn’t slept well either. I was struck once again by nature and nurture—and how deeply connected I am to both the mother I was born to and the one who raised me.

I share this personal experience because it’s important that parents today hear how deeply integrated and connected adopted persons can be with family of origin even across generations and even when they are not in relationship with them.  While adopted persons are embedded into families through adoption they can never be fully disconnected from the families they are born to and the ones with whom they share genetics and intergenerational imprints.   

The start of a new year offers us a powerful opportunity—to reimagine the calendar as more than a tool for appointments and to-do lists. For those connected in adoption, the calendar holds profound layers. It can serve as a mirror, reflecting both joy and pain, celebration and loss, connection and separation. It invites us to honor the fullness of our experiences, the both/and of life.

In adoption, the milestones we mark—and those we overlook—shape our realities and our memories. Beyond traditional holidays and birthdays, there are deeper dates to consider: placement anniversaries, court dates, family reunions, and days inflicted with violence and/or deep pain. Some dates are joyous, others carry grief. And often, those emotions coexist.

As we step into a new year, I encourage families—especially those navigating adoption and cultural differences—to curate their calendars with intention. Here are some ways to do that:

Tips for Parents: Honoring Complexity

  1. Intentionally Integrate Adoption into the Calendar: Take time to consider what information about a child’s family of origin you have access to. Reflect on whether you have the context for significant dates that may be emotionally difficult for the child entrusted to you. Find balanced and thoughtful ways to ask questions of family of origin. If there is little or no information or contact, consider reaching out to the professionals who facilitated the adoption to see what more they can uncover. If those professionals cannot be engaged, explore other ways to gain knowledge. Gathering as much factual information as possible helps create a fuller picture of a child's life before they were with you.
  2. Create Space for Reflection and Grief: Acknowledge that some dates might be bittersweet, or emotionally complex. First you need to identify and process your feelings and emotions in order to get grounded to help make this healing space for the children entrusted to you.
  3. Stay Attuned to Unspoken Grief: Sometimes, children feel emotional around significant dates without fully understanding why. Hold space for those feelings and validate them without needing an explanation. Also, helping children to name the complexity and find language for the layered feelings early on can be transformational. 
  4. Mark Significant Dates Beyond the Obvious: Include adoption milestones, biological family birthdays and anniversaries, and personal reflection days. Allow space to honor both joy and complexity.

In addition to leveraging the calendar to be proactive in holding space for complexity, we can also use the calendar to explore cultural heritage. Opening space to integrate new elements of celebration and commemoration can expand your family’s relationship with the calendar and with one another.  Being culturally curious and authentically interested in a child’s heritage and leading the way with joy will show children you are genuine in your interest in things that are connected to them.  

Tips for Parents: Honoring Cultural Heritage

  1. Embrace Cultural Celebrations Together: Explore holidays from a child's culture of origin and celebrate them as a family. Use these moments as teaching opportunities while centering cultural connections.  
  2. Share Stories Behind the Dates: When observing special days, share the stories behind them. Help your child understand both the history and emotional layers connected to these moments.
  3. Personalize Family Traditions: Blend traditions from both birth and adoptive families to create meaningful, inclusive rituals that honor the fullness of your child’s identity.
  4. Revisit and Evolve the Calendar Annually: As children grow, their understanding of identity and belonging shifts. Keep an open dialogue about which dates feel important and be willing to adjust.

The calendar can be a profound tool for healing, learning, and connecting. It reminds us that a lot of things can be true at the same time—joy and loss, gratitude and longing, belonging and searching. As we enter this new year, may we all find ways to honor the fullness of our experiences, making space for all of our many layers of our lives.

This post is from our January 2025 newsletter. If you would like to get our newsletter in your inbox each month, as well as information about our annual Transracial Journeys Family Camp and our monthly Zoom call providing support for our transracial adoption parents, please subscribe.


Making and Breaking Traditions:

A Holiday Reflection for Our Extended Family

As the year draws to a close, it’s a perfect time to reflect on the traditions we hold dear and consider how we shape new ones to honor the diversity within our families. This month, we are thrilled to share our 2024-2025 Bibliography for the Giving Season and All Year Long, a curated collection of books that celebrate stories of identity, culture, and connection. This guide is a testament to the power of books in fostering understanding, self-discovery, and belonging for adopted persons and their families.  We thank Avril for always curating such an amazing list!  

The Power of Stories to Build Bridges

For families extended through adoption, especially transracial adoption, holidays can bring unique opportunities to navigate the balance between celebrating inherited traditions and creating new ones that honor a child's racial and cultural heritage. This is no small task, but it’s also one of the greatest gifts we can give our children: the chance to see themselves reflected in the stories we tell and the celebrations we share.

Our 2024 Bibliography encourages families to explore books that:

  • Support authors and illustrators who are people of color to ensure diverse voices are celebrated and heard.
  • Highlight the experiences of adopted persons, offering powerful insights for families and a sense of connection for children.
  • Provide mirrors and windows: Books where children can see themselves and their experiences reflected, while also opening windows into the lives of others.

Whether you’re raising Black children in a white family, nurturing a child with queer identities, or simply working to foster empathy and inclusivity in your home, books are an invaluable resource.

Holiday Giving Guide: A Few Quick Tips

When selecting books this season, consider these tips to make your giving even more impactful:

  1. Shop Independent: Support Black-owned and independent bookstores whenever possible. Not sure where to start? Ask your local librarian for recommendations or visit bookshop.org.
  2. Think Broadly: Don’t just gift books to the children in your life—share them with educators, neighbors, and friends to help spark broader conversations.
  3. Pair Books with Action: Use stories as a springboard to learn more about your child’s cultural heritage or to find ways to celebrate their traditions.

This post is from our December, 2024, newsletter. If you would like to get our newsletter in your inbox each month, as well as information about our annual Transracial Journeys Family Camp and our monthly Zoom call to provide support for our transracial adoption parents please subscribe.


The Quest for Belonging:

The Urgency of Nurturing Connection and Celebrating Diversity Around the Holiday Table

By April Dinwoodie, TRJ Part-time Executive Director, Speaker, Trainer  

As a Black/Bi-racial transracially adopted person, I am mustering up the strength and centeredness to stay present, stay focused and not let the realities of our country stop me from protecting my community.  I invite you to do the same and see this as a time where we lean even harder into doing the work to protect children that are entrusted to you through adoption.  

As we enter this holiday season, families formed through transracial adoption may feel the impact of the recent election in especially profound ways. For Black and Brown children growing up in families that don’t mirror them, the current political  and societal climate brings to light ongoing issues of race and identity that can feel isolating, unsettling, and unsafe particularly when they don’t see their experiences reflected within their immediate family or community. It’s hard to put into words how unsettling it can be to have to be surrounded by people you know, who don’t truly see you or understand the weight of being enfolded into a family that does not look like them and where some people are simply not safe to be around.  

With racialized issues and polarized perspectives on social justice front and center, I am expecting an increased sense of “otherness” for Black and Brown children in homogeneous environments. From news coverage to conversations around the holiday table, this season may bring deeper dialogues and unspoken tensions. Children may be processing complex emotions: pride in their identity, fear for their safety, questions about belonging, and the desire to feel understood. This mix of feelings is compounded by the reality that their lived experiences with race differ significantly from those of their family.

For families, leaning into warmth and connection this holiday season means acknowledging these dynamics, intentionally creating space where children can express themselves, and showing a willingness to listen and learn. Addressing the challenges of the current moment means affirming each child’s identity and experiences, especially as they navigate a world where issues of race and justice are so prominent. Creating this space can help children feel more secure and deeply understood, even in the midst of difficult realities.

As you gather for the holidays, consider how to approach these topics with openness and empathy. Allow space for your child to share their feelings about the world around them and the ways in which they feel connected or disconnected. This season can be a time to reinforce family bonds and make room for the nuances of each child’s identity and experience, helping them feel safe, valued, and at home within their family.

Tips for Navigating the Holiday Season with Intention:

  • Be Thoughtful About Where You Spend the Holidays
    If extended family or friends may not provide a welcoming or understanding environment, consider celebrating at home or with a smaller, trusted group. Protecting the emotional and psychological safety of your child is paramount, especially when gatherings could bring up difficult or invalidating conversations.
  • Create Space for Honest Conversations
    Encourage your child to express any thoughts or feelings they have about current events, their identity, or adoption. Validate their emotions and show openness, letting them know it’s safe to discuss difficult topics within the family.
  • Plan Culturally Inclusive Activities
    Incorporate traditions or activities that honor your child’s cultural heritage. From meals to music and decorations, these gestures can foster a sense of pride and belonging.
  • Check In with Yourself
    Before and after conversations about race or identity, take time to reflect on your own feelings and seek support if needed. Approaching these discussions with a calm, centered mindset helps create a stable environment for your child.
  • Reassure Your Child of Their Worth and Belonging
    Remind them regularly that they are loved, valued, and an integral part of the family. This reassurance helps counteract the “otherness” they may experience in broader society and reinforces the family as a soft place.

Being intentional this holiday season will help create space for celebration and navigate the complexities that we are faced with today. 

Previous Posts About Inclusivity and Kindness at the Family Table:

Nourishment: Reflecting on Thanksgiving, Adoption and the Family Table

Beyond Words: Sustaining Strong and Healthy Families

This post is from our November, 2024, newsletter. If you would like to get our newsletter in your inbox each month, as well as information about our annual Transracial Journeys Family Camp and our monthly Zoom call to provide support for our transracial adoption parents please subscribe.


National Adoption Awareness Month (NAAM): Embracing a Broader Narrative

By April Dinwoodie, TRJ Part-time Executive Director, Speaker, Trainer  

National Adoption Month (NAM) was officially launched by the U.S. federal government in 1995 under the Clinton Administration, with its roots going back to 1976, when Massachusetts Governor Michael Dukakis first established an adoption awareness week. The original goal was to promote adoption as a pathway to provide permanent homes for children in foster care, focusing on the need for adoptive families and support within the child welfare system.

In recent years, however, adopted persons and advocates have redefined November’s focus by adding “awareness” to the month and broadening the conversation. While the original intent centered on finding families for children, today NAAM also highlights the lived experiences of adopted persons. This includes raising awareness of the complexities of identity, the importance of connections to birth families, and systemic issues within the adoption process. By reclaiming NAAM, adopted persons are making space for authentic conversations, centering their voices, and advocating for transparency, ethical practices, and post-adoption support.

For adopted individuals, NAAM can evoke a mix of empowerment, pride, grief, and introspection. It’s a month that acknowledges both the strengths and challenges within adoption, and families can support adopted children by fostering open conversations around identity, belonging, and personal history. This might mean learning more about each member’s cultural heritage, seeking resources to support identity development, or simply being present as children explore their connections to adoption.

This November, lean into NAAM with sensitivity. Rather than focusing solely on celebrating adoption, consider how the month might feel for adopted children in your family or community. Are they comfortable with how adoption is discussed? Do they have questions or thoughts that may be difficult to share? Creating an intentional space where children can express a full range of emotions—from joy to grief—can make this month meaningful for everyone.

Tips for Navigating NAAM:

  • Start Conversations with Openness and Empathy
    Ask open-ended questions about how your child feels about adoption. Be ready to listen and validate a range of emotions, including curiosity, pride, and grief. Share your feelings as well and validate the mix of emotions that can come up.  (See our conversation cards for November)
  • Pause to Reflect on Language and Narratives
    Consider whether the narratives around adoption feel inclusive and supportive for your child. Encourage discussions that respect complex family histories and the value of connections to family of origin.
  • Learn Together
    Use NAAM as an opportunity to explore cultural heritage, adoptive and extended family connections, and resources that support identity formation. Engaging together can help children feel understood and valued.
  • Check In with Yourself
    Talking about family and complicated histories can stir deep emotions. Make sure you have the support you need to navigate these conversations with compassion, both for yourself and the children in your life.

NAAM is a time for reflection, learning, and honoring the full spectrum of emotions that adoption can bring. By leaning in with sensitivity, families can create a space for connection, understanding, and support. While NAAM is a time when all of this is top of mind, remember that these conversations, reflections and actions should be happening all year long.  

This post is from our November, 2024, newsletter. If you would like to get our newsletter in your inbox each month, as well as information about our annual Transracial Journeys Family Camp and our monthly Zoom call to provide support for our transracial adoption parents please subscribe.